5 TIPS to RECOVER from an EATING DISORDER by YOURSELF! | Kati Morton

5 TIPS to RECOVER from an EATING DISORDER by YOURSELF! | Kati Morton


Today, I’d like to talk about ways we can recover on our own I know for a lot of you, you’ve talked to me about Not knowing if you can Not having the financial ability to actually seek services or, being too young and your parents won’t take you seriously So what can you do to recover on your own? Today I’m going to offer five helpful tips on ways you can start recovery on your own without actual professional help. Now the first thing I want to mention in the first tip is see your doctor. Your regular doctor, PCD (Primary Care Doctor) whatever the hell you want to call them. Make sure you see them. Now, I know I said this was going to be without professional help; and by that I meant: No dieticians, psychiatrists, therapist like myself none of that. But we all need to see our doctor first. Get your blood work done Ask for a full work-up because one of the main things I worry about as a professional is the actual medical care of my patient. How are they doing physically? There are a lot of things we cannot see: and because we know eating disorders affect our hearts, and for those of you who are not aware, when your body eats itself it starts eating this muscle and our heart is a muscle and it can really be hard on your heart and most of the people who have passed away from eating disorders it is due to heart failure or heart attacks. So, we want to make sure things are running smoothly. Also, electrolytes balance, a lot of you are purging and we know that can be thrown off and that can cause heart attacks and that can cause a lot of issues. Potassium levels, there are so many things that are important so, before you even consider doing this on your own, or working on recovery without a professional you need to make sure you’re medically safe. My second tip is; educating yourself about the disorder you think you have and your process with it. And I know this sound really odd and silly; but I think it’s important for us to understand the eating disorder relm what different types of eating disorder are there? What behaviours are we doing daily, weekly or whatever? How severe is it? And what’s our relationship with an eating disorder? How long do we think it’s been going on? Pretend you’re a detective to your own eating disorder. How long have these symptoms been around? They might be a lot longer than you ever thought. How often are we using these behaviours? What’s the relationship with it, is it talking down to us? Like “you deserve the punishment!” Or is it something we help control, and we feel better and more in control of our lives. I think that this step is honestly the most important in our whole process of recovery. In my eating disorder workbook, (the link will be in the description below) I have you do a lot of work to figure this out so, if you’re struggling to understand what I’m talking about or know how to be a detective when it comes to your own eating disorder Check out that workbook, it will really help you get started. The third thing is, setting up a support team. If we don’t have professionals around to help support us; what I have called in the past as your “treatment team” we need to set up our support team. This can be friends, this can be family, this can be your friends online. I think this is really really important to have people who are available to you 24/7 This might be support groups, this might be a hotline, this might be the chat on katimorton.com. Whatever you do, make sure you have people available to you no matter what time of day it is; and that’s why online can be such a good resource because there are people all over the world Who, are available even if it 3 in the morning to you, when it might be the middle of the day to them, and knowing you have the support when you need it is pivotal for recovery. The fourth tip is setting up a schedule and sticking to it. The nice thing about having appointments with your treatment team is that you have set times each week where you see them, or once a month if it is your psychiatrist or your doctor and that time is set aside. You have an appointment, you have to be there! You know it’s coming. So how do we make that happen if we don’t have those appointments? I would encourage you each to set aside 30 minutes a day where it’s journalling time, or workbook time. Or whatever you’re working on your recovery, because it is really difficult; it’s a struggle. It’s a process, it’s bumpy; it’s not a smooth sailing, smooth road situation and we need to make sure we’re setting aside time to work on it. It takes a lot of work and make sure that you’re doing it at least 30 minutes a day. And the fifth and final tip to recovery on your own without professional help is investing in journals and workbooks, things to help you support your recovery process. I have heard from a lot of you that there are books that saved your life. that journalling saved your life. I know that from a professional standpoint, that books, and workbooks really help me understand what my clients are going through and gives me more opportunities to offer up helpful things to work on when we’re not together, and meeting in session. And I’ve heard from many of you I think it’s “Brain Over Binge” has been really helpful; I really like “Eating In The Light Of The Moon” it’s a great book! “My Free Eating Disorder Workbook” is a great place to start aswell but I would encourage all of you If you’re new to to my channel click here to subscribe and make sure your “like” this video and join the conversation. Let us know what helped you. What’s helped loved ones in your life? What books and workbooks have been beneficial to your recovery? because together we learn more, right? There’s so many books out there that I can’t possibly read and use them all. So I need their opinions on what worked for them. Because together we are stronger! And I encourage you to share this video, and the more we share the more people are talking about it and the less stigma comes along with saying I have an eating disorder. So, lets work together, as we keep working toward a health mind and a healthy body.

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  1. Correction: More than half of people who die from eating disorders, die from suicide. These numbers might be higher since many people might go undiagnosed if they're not visibly symptomatic.

  2. i have been curious about this for some time, what happens when someone who have an eating disorder end up in hospital, maybe he/she broke her leg and need a cast, the doctor found out he/she have an eating disorder and have been under-nutrition for sometime , what will happen? do the get send to see the therapist first or do they get send to see the dietitian first? Me and my friends are discussing this during lunchtime and they think that force feeding is the best immediate action and after being nutritionally stable then send the patient to the therapist, i think that that will just cause more harm than good

  3. #KatiFAQ hi Kati I know you have done a lot of videos on depression but could you maybe do a video on how to deal with depression when your a teen as I try and be happy but my depression won't go away and I am happy sometimes when I'm having fun and I don't want it to go away you say get away from your tigger for a while then maybe face it but my trigger is school so I how do I cope ?

  4. Two questions is it normal to have lost of energy ( includes: not wanting to work or go to school)and getting headaches. I have had headaches for about 2 wks and feeling dizzy? Also I really regret telling my mom and my friends now they don't leave me alone and have some privacy. Is it ok to feel like that and why don't they leave me alone.

  5. If you can read Swedish, "Mattillåtet" by Gisela Van Der Ster is a really really good book to read. It has been really useful and when in doubt I just go back and reread the chapters I need and am unsure about.

  6. Can you do a video talking about Binge Eating Disorder? I have it and it makes me feel terrible every day, but the only time anyone mentions bingeing is in relation to bulimia or purging, which I have been able to keep myself from doing. It is hard to find information on this disorder, can you help?

  7. Sky KWhat's recovery like for someone who's overweight and bulimic? I want to get help but I'm afraid they won't let me lose weight and that's my biggest wear ever. Or even wrose make me gain weight 🙁 #KatiFAQ

  8. This is so helpful! I make videos on recovery from eating disorders also, I find your channel is so so inspiring!

  9. I really do want to get better but I'll be 18 in a few months and I will have free range of whatever I do and eat. I've already lost 10 pounds in 5 months and nobody has noticed(thank god) Thank you for the video it is helpful and great as always! Gives me hope for the future! Love you Kati! ?

  10. Please could you make a video (if you haven't already) about how to help a friend who has just lost a parent?

  11. #KatiFAQ Hi, Kati! I wanted to know how to change your username on the site (the one that's "@insert name here")? I've tried several times to change it from "@celia" to "@cece", but it hasn't worked. Am I doing something wrong? Thank you! ? XOXO

  12. hi kati could
    you do a video on having a disability and a metal illness I struggle with cp and it's very difficult thankyou

  13. #KatiFAQ where do you get the courage and motivation to get help. It's easy to say if your having problems go see someone but every time I've come close I've always put it off and said that I can deal with it on my own.

  14. #KatiFAQ I don't know if you've covered this before but I finally was able to get a therapy appointment scheduled but it's in a few months from now! How do I "hold on" until then and still be able to manage things like school? Being depressed I feel like I can barely do anything, so I was wondering if you knew some basic tips on how to not completely lose myself while I wait?

  15. Kati, I want to thank you so much for all of your videos. I had a pretty rough childhood that only got worse with time. Long story short, I recently went to a therapy intensive for two weeks that completely changed my life. Like you, they were so understanding, soft spoken, and willing to strongly nudge me in the right direction. It was very difficult to discuss certain things, but they were just so empathetic. I love to help other and that's a large part of why I'm heading into the medical field. After the intensive I almost want to become a therapist.
    Midway through my second week I became terrified that I wouldn't end up maintaining everything I had learned and improved about my emotional health. They helped me develop a plan to ensure I would continue in the right direction as well as what to do if I started slipping. I chanced upon your videos, and am now hooked. I've added your videos to my list of things to keep me in the right frame of mind. I plan to watch several videos a day until I have watched them all, yeah that will take a while. I hope (know) that your videos will keep me positive and planted in good emotional health until it becomes second nature to me. Thank you again, Seth

  16. Dear Kati,
    I'm feeling like I want to cry or have a knot in my stomach quiet often recently. But I have nothing excapt things to be happy about and I'm doing great. So is this feeling a feeling of happiness? How do you recognise when that overwhelming feeling is just happiness and not something else? Please help.

  17. I would HIGHLY recommend anything by brene brown but I did just finish her book The Gifts of Imperfection and it was honestly groundbreaking for my recovery! It is an incredible read for anyone, but especially those who struggle with mental health! Thanks again for all you do Kati 🙂

  18. More stuff
    The PTSD Sourcebook
    Courage to Heal Workbook
    The Binge Eating and Compulsive Overeating Workbook
    Purge; The Rehan Diaries This book was so important for me because it's the only book I've read that discusses unspecified ED'd. It's a memoir about the author's time in a rehab facility. TW This book is very honest. The author struggles with her illness until well after treatment.
    The DBT Workbook (green)
    Eating Disorders for Dummies was a big help to my family.

  19. #KatiFAQ Hi Kati, how can CBT help with anxiety if you can't link the anxious feelings with a negative thought pattern. A lot of times I just feel anxious for no reason.

  20. thx for this awesomely ha bisky vid and for me its my depression but i think i have a hold on it right now i cant afford meds so i have to do it without pills or anything like that its election time so i am supposed to be worse then ever but i am not i am certain we will get sanders so i am feeling pretty fine

  21. Hi, I was wondering if you could do a video
    directed towards teens trying to seek help and how to get help on their own. You videos have saved my life in a literal way. Thank you so much!!

  22. I found your channel a few months ago when I started attending counselling sessions and it has really helped me. I have always suffered from anxiety but a few years ago it started affecting my relationship with food. I still don't fully know why it happened but I started to feel like I had a lump in my throat and became fearful of choking on my food. This eventually meant that I started restricting my food intake and lost a lot of weight. When I first started going to counselling sessions I genuinely thought I didn't have an eating disorder, however, since watching your ED videos I have started to realise that I actually do. This realisation has enabled me to start getting better and deal with the irrational fear that has controlled my life for far too long. Thank you for your informative and supportive videos 🙂 x

  23. #KatiFAQ Hey Kati, here's my question.I used to confide in my teacher about my abuse and self harm urges. She doesn't teach my class anymore and we never ever meet because I'm in a higher school now and whenever I try to contact her she does not talk to me. She says I should get out of these things and stop talking to her now. It's been almost a year and I cannot let go. I feel like giving up on life because I cannot live without her. I cannot study, I cannot write. She was the only person I trusted and now I have nobody. What should I do to show her that I really love and need her? I can't go on like this. 🙁

  24. How long does it take to gain weight in recovery? And on how many calories? Please help. Thank you, Sophie. X

  25. thank you for sharing this…!

    for anyone who sees this comment, i sincerely hope this may be of some help as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQQH7srHGxM

  26. i did it , its been 1 month i gained weight . i ate too much ( no binging ) ! i never knew its easy . you just have to fight hard and WANT to recover .

  27. I was in the hospital last year today and all this and next week. nice to remember for some reason I am very sentimental of this ordeal

  28. I think i have an ED but my doctor isnt taking me seriously so hes just referring me to more depression treatments

  29. If I told my family I feel like they would not understand and Judge me… I'm so terrified but I know if I don't get help now then it will be worse

  30. Hello it's been 15 years since I have had an eating disorder but my body isn't recovering due to my thyroid. As a a teenager I was very obese but went on a diet when I was 21 and got obsessed with losing too much weight which led to anorexia and bulimia. Fast forward 15 years later I don't have any eating disorders now but the body feels like it's starving even though I eat plenty of food. I take medication for my underactive thyroid but it's not helping. It's been really frustrating for 15 years. I have recovered mentally from my eating disorder but the body keeps going backwards and now my metabolism is out of whack and I'm always hungry. I live in Australia and no doctors understand why I feel like I’m starving all the time.

  31. Yes yes yes I loved this video I am to scared to tell anyone about my eating problem. I dont call it an disorder Because I am not diagnosed. I starve myself and just forget to eat I also binge from time to time I lost weight lately I hate it

  32. Katie,please talk about the deeper food issues,such as food being all the source of pleasure in our lives,the only food we look forward to(in case of Bed),using as a crutch,source of novelty and a way to relax and zone out.these r my serious issues and I would benefit from digging deeper into these vulnerable subjects,thanks dear,u r super helpful,God bless u

  33. My old friend in my bakeshop at collage heights has anorexia. My old freinds name was Cora. Cora never eats lunch. Cora is not my friend any more because I talked about her weight around her. Cora weighed 92 pounds. I used to have an eating disorder.

  34. I want to recover but I dont wanna gain weight it scares me that I might not have a healthy relationship with food ever again

  35. I went through all that and recovered about two years ago without my parents or doctor ever knowing. Sadly, I got really good at lying. Please, if you can, do what Kati said and see your doctor. I had to make my willpower work in the opposite direction and force myself to eat a reasonable amount. I also watched YouTube documentaries to scare myself into recovering. It was scary, but I got really lucky because it worked, even though I relapsed once. I was too scared to tell anyone until just last year, and then I told someone I trust for safety in case I relapsed again. I haven’t. I am so glad that more people have resources like this channel so they don’t have to be completely alone. Thanks, Kati, for all you do.

  36. can you talk about how eating disorders are competitive? and how watching the wrong videos and following the wrong people can be dangerous? i’m happy to have found your channel.

  37. Every time I try recovery and start to eat I get sooooo uncomfortably bloated I look 5 months pregnant and in pain. I always end up not eating again because of the painfully bloated stomach. Not to mention my digestive tract goes haywire and I feel like nothing will move through me. It doesn’t seem to matter what I eat just as soon as I eat more I’m painfully bloated and I hate this feeling. I’m in bed all day. How to help the bloating is my question.

  38. Idk if i have an eating disorder tbh. My weight is healthy but I have all the other symptoms and I hate it, so I'm not sure if I even deserve to recover at this weight and just ughhh it's so fucking confusing

  39. I’m really trying to recover it’s so hard. I’ve tried doing it by myself and then developed bulimia on top of my anorexia and so I’m trying to find a place to get help.

  40. I’ve been struggling for years. If I really think about it it’s been like half my life. (I’ve commented on your videos before) I’ve been thinking about recovery lately. A lot of it has come from Alanis Morissette and her talking about her story. I want to keep my toxic family out of this and I’m almost 18 so hopefully when i go on my own I can cut them out and get the help I know I need, but still am very unsure I deserve.

  41. I don’t know if I’m ready because it’s hard. And I don’t have any support other than my best friend but she lives across the country. (Don’t get me wrong she’s helped immensely by being an outlet of that makes sense). I don’t want to tell my family because I they will guilt trip me n it’s a whole other thing. All my mental issues all have a sort of snowball effect.

  42. Ugh, the parents thing is so true, I'm almost 20 I've been bulimic since I was 13 but binge since… Forever actually. My dad changes the subject because he feels uncomfortable and probably doesn't think it's that bad and my mom doesn't take it seriously

  43. Im 18 male 6 foot and im 120 pounds or less haven't weighed myself in a while cuz im scared that im under 115 pounds i just want to be normal just "normal"?????????

  44. You are the opposite of the doctor that was supposed to be helping me with my anorexia. She was a malicious arrogant incompetent witch who insisted I stopped eating because I must have wanted to be skinny (which I've always been) and when I explained I stopped eating to avoid crossing paths with my toxic abusive narcissist family she said it was my fault. And despite my 46Kg to 1.68m height and my shortness of breath, incredible weakness and heart palpitations she never ordered physical exams, she just told me to confront my family. To confront my abusive aggressive family that I unfortunately I still depend on, who constantly threaten me and my equally anorexic twin sister to throw us out to live on the streets. This when we're already walking on egg shells at home all the time. This psychiatrist actually works in the eating disorder department of the main city hospital. Me and my sister just quit the ridiculous appointments, never having received any actual professional care. All they want to do is talk and victim-blaming, while our physical body withers away.

  45. I'm pregnant and have had an issue with bulimia for 7 years. I'm a healthy weight now but I constantly slip back into it, randomely. It has caused rosacea on my cheeks, hair loss, chest pains. I want to stop. I'm finally ready to not even think of that as an option anymore. This is hard.

  46. I was 85 lbs (I’m supposed to be like 120) . I had to gain 15 lbs by myself before I died bc my parents didn’t help. I was 12 at the time. I became suicidal and depressed. I was so proud of myself when I saved my own life. That thing that kept me proud of myself was the only thing keeping me alive. The only reason why I didn’t kill myself. But then my parents took credit for my “recovery”. Then I relapsed, and now I don’t see the point of recovery if I’m not gonna get any credit.

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