Our Autistic Twins Taking Communication Therapy | Living Differently

Our Autistic Twins Taking Communication Therapy | Living Differently

Both boys have escaped from here
five or six times between them, and we’ve had to have the police
involved, helicopters, police dogs… They were just escape artists. The boys were diagnosed with autism
when they were two and a quarter. It was quite evident there was
something not quite right, erm, with them. You’d come home from work
and there’s no response. Mm-hmm. Mark would just come in,
“Hello, boys,” and they would just ignore him. I got nothing back from them at all. We didn’t feel they loved us,
did we? No, no. And they didn’t have any emotion,
interaction… No expressions. So we just cared for them,
loved them and fed them, and that was our life. You go through lots of emotions. You feel guilt, you know,
that it’s something in your genes. Is it because of your age? You look for all kinds of reasons,
because you feel it’s your fault. They wrecked everything, soiled
everywhere, threw up everywhere… Everything that could be broken
and twisted and snapped was done. They’d just trash the place –
just pull it apart. Everything had to be screwed down. Screwed down and up high. Both boys have escaped
from here probably five or six times between them, and we’ve had to have
the police involved, helicopters, police dogs… And that’s why we needed such
a high fence all round… Yeah. ..because they were just
escape artists. Every professional advised us,
but most of all for them, it’s… To put them into…
Into residential… So, it wasn’t just experts,
it was also friends and family. And we did, we went and had a look
at two residential schools, and you can’t get any lower than
that as a parents – to go and find an alternative place for your children to live. And we talked and talked and talked,
and we both just couldn’t do it. We just could not give them up. HE YELLS INCOHERENTLY Jacob and Samuel,
they’re like any other child. They want to fit in with society.
They want to do everything right. To say to them,
“Come on, boys, do it this way,” they can’t, and it’s almost cruel. Conventional teaching in schools
is that the boys are doing inappropriate behaviour, so we’ve got to show them
appropriate behaviour. So what the Son-Rise Program… What we’re taught is we have to
enter their world, and by entering their world,
we’re going to get their trust, and so we literally
copy what they’re doing. The Son-Rise Program is a relationship-based therapy, so it’s about an understanding that autism is primarily
a socio-relational disorder. Autism is about a person’s
difficulty being able to connect and interact and form
relationships with another person. Our approach is going down to,
sort of, the root cause of what is
going on for that child. It was an absolute eye-opener,
because the people who were teaching it had a direct
involvement with autism. Cos autistic children
are well known, you just… you just can’t get eye contact. The first time
you will never forget, because they’ve never done
it before, and I was at the table, and I was
just joining him, spinning… Spin! ..and suddenly he stopped spinning,
and just looked up, and looked straight into my eyes, and there was a look on his face
as if to say, “You know what I’m doing.
You’re with me.” It was a wonderful experience,
and you never forget it. And then, of course,
you’re now in their world, and over time you, kind of,
slightly change the activity, and without them knowing,
they’re copying you. We’re gradually bringing them
into our world. And things start to happen that
experts said was impossible, and would never happen, but we’ve been
experiencing miracles. So much for looking at me.
That is amazing! Get ready.
Going to do another scratch! Hey! Thank you for looking back.
Nice! I’ve seen them change in quite a profound way,
in terms of their ability to follow instructions, the level of calmness
that they have, their desire to want to try to
communicate… Raaargh! Achoo! I was told the boys
would see you, me, no different than, say, the postman, but now I can see they love
their mum. I can’t deny it. They come up to me. They cuddle, they kiss…
They cuddle, they kiss… They interact. The future for Jacob and Samuel,
since the Son-Rise Program, is limitless. We’ve got two little boys now who
are loving, and they interact, and they’re caring, and they’re part of the family. Every expert said that would never
happen, it’d be impossible, but now we’ve got our boys
and they’re coming back to us.

54 comments / Add your comment below

  1. As a person with autism at school someone said I don’t “look autistic” because they think our face morphs like Down syndrome. And someone else thinks that I don’t have autism because her little brother has it and I don’t act like him. Smh

  2. I knew autistic twins growing up, but they were very vocal and easily protested to things they didn't like. You'd often hear them shouting and screaming in the halls. They each kept a stuffed animal with them at all times to help them calm down and focus.

  3. My brother has O.C.D , O.D.D and autism (sever asbergurs) in my experience this video was accurate until 1:44 autism isn’t horrible on It’s own . It’s what comes with autism that is life changing

  4. How about you ask us what it's like being autistic? How about you ask us what kind of help we'd like? How about you ask us about the ways the rest of society treats us? We aren't sick, we aren't a curse or a burden, we aren't scary. We're just people with brains that work differently to neurotypical people. We don't need to be taught how to act like "normal" people. We need those "normal" people to learn that we're just normal enough, thank you very much. Verbal communication and eye contact isn't the be-all, end-all of human relationships. People need to learn this.

  5. This does seem to be quite an ableist focused clip. While I can't imagine how difficult it must be to live with children who you can't communicate with, at the same time I just kept getting the impression they thought of the autism as something broken in their sons that was being fixed. I think it's a fine line to walk between teaching severely autistic people enough to make them independent and able to communicate, and making them conform to what people view as 'normal'. What I don't understand is why there was no indication given in this clip of non-verbal methods of communication being tried, the most obvious example of which would be sign language.

  6. Seeing people helping them in a nice way is so nice to see usually when I see people dealing with autistic people I see them get mad or yell at them which upsets me because their not doing anything wrong and if they are doing something wrong they probably don't know/understand why it's wrong

  7. As a speech-language therapist who works with children with autism on communication.. I have never heard of this but I am intrigued

  8. In this materialistic world parents forget how to truly play and connect with one another. Toys and gadgets should never replace human touch and eye contact.

  9. They need a higher fence
    Those boy could escape and drown

    Is well know autistic kids feel attraction to water

    I admire these parents hard work but I think ABA and Son Rise could help them more

  10. me and my twin brother are autistic, but we have a few differences we don't look exactly the same, we are different gender and I have high functioning autism and my brother has low

  11. Autistic people perceive the world differently so we just need to understand that so WE can live normally with them.

  12. The son rise program is great. These boys had severe autism. People are saying accept none verbals. I get it. But These boys had never talked to their parents. Obviously these parents were sad. And these boys were uncomfortable. So to every person who saying they have autism they aren’t making them neurotipicles there making them comfortable

  13. I read "Son Rise" as a young teen and this is the first I have heard of the therapy being used since. This family is lovely.

  14. This was so lovely to watch! To think of all the love and help out there in the world like therapy and the program they're in, they're being helped by strangers and my heart melts. Autism interests me a lot since it's so misunderstood, help for autism is not a cure for a disease but more a way for people with autism and neurotypical people to find some way to communicate. They seem like such a lovely family.

  15. Why would they keep them in that shed?! I understand that it’s difficult to learn to help a child with autism but that is just cruel. Autism isn’t some disease that needs to be cured, the brain is just different. I’m glad that you are helping them learnt to communicate, but seriously?!

  16. So Their Twins, Their Identical And Both Have Autisim. I Feel Happy For Them But At The Same Time Sad. I Hope That They Live A Beautiful Life

  17. I have autism but the low end, I just have problems with social skills and I have sensory overload’s which means I can’t go do clubs, discos or anything 🙁

  18. Let me be honest. I don't have this kind of autism. I'm great at communicating to people that I knew, it's just I wanted to stop making friends when I went to my new secondary school. I was antisocial but I will still talk to my friends. It's just that I wish i went to secondary school with my friends. That's all.

  19. when men marry should give attention to women's relatives. If women's relatives have a disesase your child will be sick

  20. these parents are so stupid lol… if your children are autistic, educate yourself on autism. dont throw them into some program promising you a change on something that isnt even bad.

  21. I think this is very promising. People need to stop autistic people going completely into their own worlds but they also need to stop forcing autistic people into the 'normal' world. This is a good midpoint. You are reaching into their world and pulling them out a bit as a form of communication

  22. I have a child that is autistic and high-functioning I have also worked with a child who was non-verbal autistic and I think that what I haven't learnt is that autism is just them been on another operationing system to ours it's not a bad thing it's just they see the world a different way. The boy I looked after was smily happy with a great sense of humour. I think the childrens behaviour was a reflection on how they felt with them in the first place which isn't the child's fault. No verbal doesn't mean they don't understand what you are saying to them.

  23. While this may come across as rude, (I dont mean it that way, my best friend growing up has severe autism) i wish people would stop treating all us people with autism and minor autism like they have severe autism. if someone you know has minor autism or aspergers, the best thing you can do, is act normal like you do in normal society, and understand that we dont understand social cues.

  24. I was autistic when I was little. Everyone liked me and took care of me (like my teachers in school). And I thought that everyone would be treated like that.
    I'm 14 years old now and I think I have cured my self. After all the care that people giving me I think I am one of the few people that have recovered from this sickness. My autism went from extreme to low. And I started doing things like most people do.
    I watched this video and I was very sad. These kids have no control over themselves. They can recover.. ? Anyone reading this.. Remember, even if you have a disease or sickness.. your not alone. .people can help. Thank you ❤

    (Ps my grammar bad and I American ?)

  25. 3:23 was not the correct way to treat a person with autism, because as someone with autism myself, I've realised that there's more to it than my behaviour on the outside, because it's about what is on the inside, how it effects us mentally and how that effects us physically.

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